If we were to pay more attention to being here, to listening and seeing instead of giving priority to our thought process, fear, and projections, those conversations that are presently adversarial and conflicted would have a new narrative because we would go to a deeper level of hearing what the other person or other group is actually saying.
With others, we need to begin to listen, really listen and really see who is there. We need to stop asking the question: How am I doing? and start asking the question: Who is there? Listening means that you stop tuning into your mental process to work things out, and you give reality importance, more importance than your own constant stream of thoughts, chatter, or preoccupations.