You choose where you wish to be in your identification with what is most real, understanding that there are multiple layers you can choose from. In every situation you can choose which polarity to identify with.
What is most important? It’s to know that your home, your God-place is inside of you. It’s to know that in times of difficulty, in times of upset, in times of challenge, your home, your place of Divine connection and being is inside of you. That’s always the most important thing, because without that knowledge, there’s no place to go to, there’s no place to retreat to when things become very turbulent outside of you.